When can a child decide which parent to live with?

Is there a particular age when a child in Rhode Island can decide which parent they want to reside with, in a RI child custody, post divorce or Divorce cause of action?

Can a child in Rhode Island decide where they want to live?

There is no set age under Rhode Island family laws when a minor child can decide to live with their mother or father in a Rhode Island child custody case. In fact, theoretically, the child is not allowed to make that decision. In reality, older children have a very significant impact on child custody determinations by a Providence RI Family Court Court Judge or General Magistrate. An older child’s wishes are often respected and followed by a RI Family Court justice. In making a child custody determination, the Providence Court judge or magistrate makes a decision based on the “best interest of the child”.

Preference of child only one factor in  physical placement determination

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The preference of the child is only one of the factors that a Providence Family Court Judge may consider in determining the best interest of the child.The Factors a Family Court Judge should use in making a “best interest of the child” determination are set forth in the seminal Rhode Island case of Pettinato v Pettinato, 589 A.2d 909 (R.I. 1990) Please see below for all factors that the Rhode Island Family Court utilizes to determine Child Custody. see Child Custody Law in RI

(If you are in need of a child custody attorney in Rhode Island, contact East Providence child custody lawyer, David Slepkow.)

Older children have greater input into where they will live

If an older child such as a 15, 16 or 17 year old has a preference and that opinion is expressed to the Judge, Court Investigator or Guardian ad Litem than the judge will usually respect the child’s desire.

Exceptions to older children’s influence

There are some exceptions in Newport Family Court  or RI family Court to an older child’s decision being the decisive factor. In some cases, despite the child’s

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advanced age, the child does not know what is in his or her best interest. In some cases the child abuses drugs and alcohol, does poorly in school, misbehaves, has a criminal record or has mental health issues.

Also if the child does not have a good reason for his decision then the judge can deny the child’s request. If the other parent is not a fit and proper person to have placement of the child then the Judge can deny the request. The judge can deny a child’s request if the parent the child would like to reside with has a drug or alcohol problem, severe mental health condition or a serious criminal record. In some cases, RI Family Court Judges are hesitant to change placement if the child is very immature for her age and has behavioral issues and the child is merely rebelling against the imposition of rules and structure.

Do children have influence over visitation terms in Rhode Island

Children also may be given influence in Child Visitation cases in RI. Children may play a role in the determination of whether visitation should be overnight and the schedule and frequency of the visits. Children may play a role in whether visitation should be supervised or unsupervised and the length of duration of visitation. Children also may be given influence when the parent with physical custody files a motion to relocate out of state.

Practical Tip: If you are aware that your children support your position regarding Visitation, Custody, Placement or Relocation out of state then have your children interviewed by the Judge, RI Family Services or a Guardian ad Litem.

Can younger children decide where they want to live?

Children ages 11, 12, 13 & 14 may also  be given significant influence over Rhode Island Child Custody, Visitation and Relocation cases.

Do all judges deal with children in the same manner?

Judges in Rhode Island Family Court have different philosophies on how they deal with children. Some judges will not interview children. They will have the Family Court investigators from Rhode Island Family services or the Guardian ad Litem interview the children. The Court Investigator or the Guardian ad Litem then will issue a report to the RI Family Court Judge or Magistrate handling the matter. (In Rhode Island (RI), A guardian ad litem is a individual who represents the hypothetical best interest of the minor child in a child custody, visitation or other type of Family Court case. Guardians are frequently used in in contentious custody cases when the parties can afford the additional expense.The judge could make an appointment or the parties can agree to a guardian being appointed. A guardian does not make the final decision as to which parent shall get physical placement or legal custody of the child. The judge makes the final decision regarding custody, visitation and physical placement / possession after hearing testimony at trial or hearing. The guardian drafts a report to submit to the Court with his or her findings and recommendations. see The Role of the Guardian Ad Litem in Family Court in Rhode Island http://www.hg.org/article.asp?id=18219 )

There are some Family Law judges who will bring the child into chambers for an interview. The Judge will usually bring the court reporter to transcribe the proceedings. Some judges will allow the RI divorce attorneys or Rhode Island child custody alwyers to question the child in chambers in front of the judge.

Practical Tip: Don’t coach your children. This is unfair to the child and puts unnecessary stress and pressure on the child. Also, the Child will usually tell the Judge or Family services about the coaching. If the Judge believes that you have engaged in coaching then there may be severe sanctions. The Sanctions may include the judge denying your request for placement, sole custody or relocation.

A child’s preference is not decisive it is given weight

The older a child is, the more weight / influence the judge will give to the child’s preferences regarding custody, placement, visitation and relocation out of state. Younger children usually have a greater influence on proving facts rather than making decisions. The child may tell the investigator or Judge that their parent abuses them or if they are afraid of their parent. The child may tell the investigator that the parent makes negative or disparaging comments about a parent in front of the child. The child may make allegations regarding parental alienatation.

Children typically do not get to make the decision concerning legal custody. Legal custody pertains to who gets to make decisions concerning religion, education, social development, activities and medical decisions. Legal Custody will either be Sole Custody to one parent or Joint Custody to both parents.

Child Custody matters involving preference of the child may play a role in Rhode Island Divorce, Paternity, Miscellaneous Petitions for Custody, DCYF, Motions to modify Custody or placement and visitation disputes. Children have no real influence on Child Support cases.

RI Child Custody Factors:

“1. The wishes of the child’s parent or parents regarding the child’s custody.
2. The reasonable preference of the child, if the court deems the child to be of sufficient intelligence, understanding, and experience to express a preference.
3. The interaction and interrelationship of the child with the child’s parent or parents, the child’s siblings, and any other person who may significantly affect the child’s best interest.
4. The child’s adjustment to the child’s home, school, and community.
5. The mental and physical health of all individuals involved.
6. The stability of the child’s home environment.
7. The moral fitness of the child’s parents.
8. The willingness and ability of each parent to facilitate a close and continuous parent-child relationship between the child and the other parent.” Pettinato v. Pettinato, 582 A.2d 909, 913-14 (R.I. 1990).”

Resources and Statistics

“About half (50.6 percent) of all custodial parents had either legal or informal child support agreements. • Custodial parents receiving the full amount of child support due declined between 2007 and 2009, from 46.8 percent to 41.2 percent. • Of the $35.1 billion in child support due in 2009, 61.0 percent was reported as received, averaging $3,630 per custodial parent who was due support. • Child support represented 62.6 percent of the average income for custodial parents below poverty who received full support.” Custodial Mothers and Fathers and Their Child Support: 2009 Consumer Income,  Issued December 2011 P60-240 Current Population Reports By Timothy S. Grall http://www.census.gov/prod/2011pubs/p60-240.pdf 

Rhode island divorce attorney, David Slepkow represents clients in the following types of RI family law matters: child support, visitation, paternity and child custody.

Rhode Island Attorneys legal Notice per RI Rules of Professional Responsibility:

The Rhode Island Supreme Court licenses all lawyers / attorneys in the general practice of law, but does not license or certify any lawyer or attorney as an expert or specialist in any field of practice.

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