Domestic Relations Court Tips- Perception is reality

A Rhode Island Family Court attorney who regularly litigates divorce and custody cases in Providence Family Court, sets forth numerous divorce tips to help litigants in Domestic Court. Please read these tips very carefully!

1. Perception is reality in Domestic Relations Court 

Family Court tips

RI Family Court tips

Dress appropriately for your day in Providence Family Court. We have said this numerous times!! Kent County Family Court in Warwick is not a beach. Washington County Family Court  is not a nightclub.  Newport Family Court is not a day at local 1st beach.

Do not overdress as it makes you look like you are trying too hard TO IMPRESS. It makes it look like you have something to hide.  Cover your tattoos, if possible.  Dress as if you are going out to dinner at a moderately priced restaurant. This means business casual is appropriate.

I saw one guy with a white suit looking like a pimp. I saw another dude with his construction wear and muscle shirt. C’mon man you can go to the bathroom and get changed right after Court to get to work! Remember, WE cannot say this enough perception is reality!

Win Your RI Custody Battle by not acting as a moron!  25 stupid mistakes to avoid. “The stupid and boorish behavior set forth below may impede or ruin your chances of getting Child Custody in RI Family Court. All of the actions set forth below are actual behavior that I have seen in Providence Family Court”

2. Avoid Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.

Avoid posting about your Rhode Island divorce,  RI custody  feud or RI Family Court case. Judges are very concerned that your children will see your custodial posts during the course of your custody battle.

More importantly, do not post info that can be used against you indirectly or directly in your child custody, divorce or RI child support cause of action. For example, in a RI child custody case, do not allow any posts or pictures related to drinking or drug use. In a Rhode Island child support case, if you are claiming you cannot afford to pay support, it will really hurt your case if there are posts showing you dining at a fancy restaurant or getting bottle service at a local nightclub or going on fancy vacations with your girlfriend to Aruba.

3.  DO NOT be rude to or get into a scrap with Court staff.

Do not be rude to constables, sheriffs, clerks, Family Service investigators etc. Judges look to protect their staff and it will not help a litigant’s case if the Providence Family Court Magistrate or presiding justice is irate at a rude, intemperate or overly aggressive litigant.

4. Come to Court with Clean Hands

I will repeat it. Enter the courtroom with CLEAN Hands. You have been wronged. Your crazy ex-girlfriend wrongfully obtained a restraining order based on lies and false allegations. This prevents you from spending meaningful and important time with your child.

You want your day in Court. You want to expose her lies and reinstate your relationship with your child. However, before you can open your mouth, one of the following things occurs:

  • you flunk a court ordered drug test for smoking marijuana the night before,
  • The judge is informed that you failed and refused to pay child support for your children for the past three months or
  • You send her numerous alcohol induced nasty text messages calling her all sorts of obscene names.

Before you can even open your mouth to get justice and tell your story, the judge already perceives you negatively. The judge is more focused on your wrongs than the story you are attempting to tell.

5. Do not take videos of your child related to the Family Court dispute!

Rhode Island Family court judges do not like parents interviewing a child about custody, visitation, child support or anything related to Family law. Also see: 7 RI Family Court TIPS for your Divorce, Custody or Visitation Case!

Bonus Family Court tip

Get a Divorce lawyer in RI to represent you. If it is a child custody case, get a RI child custody lawyer.

The American Psychological Association reports:

“Marriage and divorce are both common experiences. In Western cultures, more than 90 percent of people marry by age 50. Healthy marriages are good for couples’ mental and physical health. They are also good for children; growing up in a happy home protects children from mental, physical, educational and social problems. However, about 40 to 50 percent of married couples in the United States divorce. The divorce rate for subsequent marriages is even higher.”

The United States Census reported that “About 1 in 6 custodial parents were fathers (17.8 percent). More than one-quarter (26.2 percent) of all children under 21 years of age in families lived with only one of their parents…”