Act like ass in RI divorce, judge likely agree with spouse you are ASS!

Some people believe that it is okay to act like a moron in the course of their Rhode Island divorce litigation. These people will file ridiculous unwarranted motions, misleading restraining orders and make outrageous settlement proposals. They engage in unseemly and outrageous conduct in Providence Family Court. These people often believe that the Providence Family  Court judge will only listen to the testimony at trial concerning the marriage and make a decision on the merits of the testimony only AT TRIAL.

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Perception is reality! You cannot un-ring a bell. People including judges are human. The judge just witnessed (with his or her own two eyes) you or your Rhode Island divorce attorney, acting on your behalf, acting like a moron during the divorce or child custody case. Your husband testifies that you are IN FACT an ass. It is likely that the judge will believe you are in FACT an ASS.

If you acted like a jerk during your divorce litigation, the judge is likely to believe that you acted like a jerk in your marriage!

The judge will make findings and decisions accordingly and they probably will not be in your favor! You claim that you are not verbally abusive to your wife. You assert that you never committed domestic violence. Your wife says that you are a lying, abusive and controlling man! You take the stand and categorically deny all allegations and claim your wife is a greedy liar.


But however, the judge saw you:

  • lose your cool at a child support motion 5 months ago.
  • The judge also remembers you misrepresenting your work schedule 8 months ago when he was determining a visitation schedule for your children.
  • The judge recalls that you called your wife’s employer and accused her of being an alcoholic so she would lose her employment. (There was nothing the judge could do about it at the time because of your First Amendment rights. However, the judge filed away the information in a compartment in his or her brain)
  • The Providence Family Court judge or magistrate also remembers, that your wife’s RI divorce lawyer made several reasonable settlement proposals during the divorce litigation. You were the one making outrageous settlement proposals which caused the case to drag on.

YOU gave the judge Exhibit A, B and C to find in favor of your wife at trial

AND NOW, the judge has to make a decision and findings of fact as to whether you are an abusive and controlling man. The Rhode Island Family Court justice has to determine whether you have anger management issues. He has heard contradicting and inconsistent testimony at trial about these issues. How do you believe he will rule? If the judge believes your wife’s testimony that your conduct lead to the breakdown of the marriage, then he can award you spouse a disproportionate share of the marital assets. The judge could also make an award of attorney fees in your wife’s favor. A decision after a trial or testimonial hearing is an opportunity for the judge to wield the proverbial hammer.

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I have seen many cases when there is contradictory testimony and it is unclear who is telling the truth. The tie breaker could be the perception of the RI Family Court Judge. The Judge or Family Court General Magistrate could act as an unofficial and unstated witness as to what the judge saw during the divorce proceedings. I have seen many cases in which a party is unofficially punished at trial for their unseemly actions during the divorce proceedings.

Of course, the judge will never admit or state that his or her decisions were influenced by anything else other than the testimony at trial. As experienced Rhode Island Family Court attorneys, we know the real world of Providence Family Court. The take away of this post is that a divorce case is not a license to act like an unstable fool. Always maintain ethics and dignity, even in a divorce. Especially, because credibility is of utmost importance in Providence Family Court.

Citation and Quote

“Two patterns emerge in table 6: for the NLSY79 cohort, (1) the probability of divorce decreases as educational attainment increases, and (2) the probability of divorce generally decreases as age at marriage increases. In addition, as shown in tables 3 through 5, college graduates marry at older ages than do people with less education. It may be the case that marrying at older ages decreased the chance of divorce for this cohort. In addition, some of the same personal or socioeconomic characteristics that help in the completing of a college degree may also help in maintaining a marriage.” United States Department of Labor,  Bureau of Labor Statistics